Every relationship is different. But I think there are a few baselines that connect them all. One of these is that you should never question your significant others desire to be with you. Relationships are about companionship and love and support. So why are you in a relationship with someone who isn’t around enough to be your companion, give you enough support, and therefore struggles with making you feel loved?

It is always important to love yourself and not be crazy when bae hasn’t texted back in an hour. But when it’s been four days and you’ve talked only a few minuscule times, or they always forget that you’re about to have something important to do, or they don’t act interested, that’s when it’s time to look a little deeper.

You deserve to be with someone who is genuinely curious about you, someone who wants to hear about your day just as much as they want to share theirs with you, and someone who understands the value of a, ‘good luck,’ and a, ‘congrats.’ Maybe they are busy and stressed or maybe they are trying to get a message to you, but whatever the reason, if it’s affecting you, talk about it.

People can forget the importance of communicating and the positive affects it can have when it’s present and the negative affects it can have when it’s absent. They also forget that communicating isn’t just about the bad stuff. It’s about the good things too. The tiny things. The, ‘what color shirt should I wear today,’ things. A partner who forgets about you more than not can make you feel lousy, undesired, and alone. In a world where we find ourselves by ourselves frequently, it can be painful to feel like the one person you’ve decided to be with is perfectly fine without you.

Remember, you’re choosing to invest in this person. Shouldn’t they be just as interested in investing in you as well? I’m thinking so, but that’s just what nugget says.